I used to say that I had NO trust issues, regardless of what happened in the past, I trusted everyone that I decided to bring into my life but that was not completely true. Trust for me is gradual.. I meet you, your cool.. you make it to me coming to your place, I trust you a little.. You make it to where my feelings get involved with you.. i trust you a lot.. one thing I would NEVER do it hold someone accountable for things that have happened in my past.. sure past experiences and relationships shape us as people but regardless of how much heartache or traumatizing experiences I've had I would never think that the next man is going to cheat on me just because my ex-boyfriend did.
Trust is similar to Love but also different. Love, its easy to fall in love.. a constant challenge to maintain.. and hard to fall out of love.. Its hard to trust someone, once you do its a constant challenge for them to maintain.. and easy to lose.. Basically what I'm saying is stop being so caught up in who has done your wrong in the past and live for the future.. trust someone.
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you cant give trust to anyone, trust is so sacred, you should find someone who doesn't have obvious glitches and someone who you've known for quite sometime, and see how things go, in a sense its like letting ur guard down....you could always let it dow, but remember...its an easy admission into your gates of trust but finding a way out is like a labyrinth...so dont be fooled...cause you could spend years trusting someone and they will hurt you, and they will constantly find a way to break free of your trust, thus "finding a way out of your gates of trust" these things take time...fall, but fall smart, and trust but dont let ur guard down...
be safe
XOXO
Nita
Trust is most definitely a four letter word. As you said, like love it has many connotations and meanings depending on the relationship. Whether you stick someone with the point of past relationship pins or not, there will be a sliver of "what if". It's human to question something new with something of the past, be it negative or positive. Trust has always been about "U" in the middle. I think first and foremost trust begins within oneself. "U" have to trust yourself to believe or trust in someone else. The first time someone betrays your trust it's like a body and emotional blow, especially when it's a personal relationship. It is hard to relinquish that ... vulnerability again, you cannot, not matter how much you wish, go back to the original naiveté that it was first given.
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