Relationship Rambles :)

Like a seed planted into the dark, cold, damp earth, this love was hidden inside my chest festering at the seams similar to the roots that sprout from the seed. At first I tried to fight it.  Beating at my chest like a raged barbarian beating against a hand drum playing a melody for tribal meeting.  I was an angry soul.  I was worn out from fighting a raging war against myself that I was never going to win.  Because when love strikes, there is no turning back. Fighting love is a losing war because if you try to fight it, you will end up hurt.. if you give in.. you may end up hurt.. either way you may end up hurt.. but if you give it a chance and it's the right kind of love.. you could find your soul mate.  You could find the one who is worth it all.  So here are a few of my relationship rambles...

One. if both parties are not willing to give their all then the relationship is not  going to work.  NOT AT ALL.. One person cannot carry a relationship on their back because one day they will burn out.. Both parties have to come to the relationship willing to give the same amount of effort.

Two. No Laziness.  most people are just too damn lazy.  At first, when your just dating.. you do EVERYTHING to try to impress that person.. pull all the tricks out the closet.. all the nice dates, cute fits, etc.. but when you got that person and you know they love you and THINK they are not going anywhere you quit doing all of that??? NO WAY!! you can't give up!! that's stupid.  That's why people are so quick to say "You were not who I thought you were" DUH!!! Because you got too damn comfortable and got lazy.

Third.. Leave Your Baggage at the door please :) Yes i know it is hard to completely come into a relationship with a clean slate.. because you learn things from your past.. but don't blame your new girl/dude for what your ex did... they did not cheat on you so don't treat them like they are guilty.  Treating them guilty is only going to push them to cheat or scare them the hell off.

Four. Hurting is okay ((if its positive)).  Sometimes your feelings are going to be hurt.  Oh well, that's life.  If your bf/gf is looking out for your best interests they are going to tell you when your fucking up.  Yes your feelings may be a little hurt at the moment but you will get over it.  You should learn how to know the difference between what's hurting your feelings because they have your best interests in mind ((healthy)) or they're just being a complete asshole ((unhealthy))

Five. Just give LOVE a try.  I swear.  When you're in love, it has it's ups and downs but if it is a healthy love, it has way more ups than it does downs.  So to all my readers, let's stop being scared and let's all give love a try :)