Happiness

Today was a perfect day. I am absolutely happy!! :)

Reflection

The quote below completely describes me. People who do not know me judge me and never get to know me. They don't like me based on what they have heard versus what they actually see. So I decided to do some self reflecting.

Now I know that I cannot show anyone the type of person I am based on what I write but I am writing simply as my perception of who I am.

I believe I am always evolving, changing and trying to perfect me as a person. I know I have flaws and I'm always trying to work on them. One thing I can say is I can a long way from the hot headed little girl I used to be and I am growing into a woman that my friends and family can be proud of rather than ashamed of. I am not perfect. I still make mistakes. I'm still impulsive at times. Sometimes I forget to think things through... But everyday I tell myself, in order to be a better person I must realize what I am doing wrong and learn from those mistakes.

Well I'm done reflecting! Thank you'

The Orgasm Effect

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Thank you so very much :) 

Pros and Cons

So I was told to make a Likes and Dislikes list of things I like in men so that I can have successful future relationship(s) so here are my list of things I look for in a man and what I find red flags..

What I look For (in no particular order):

1.  Humor

2. Trust && Honesty

3. Loyalty

4. Ambitious

5. Sexually pleasing

6. Educated


Red Flags:

1. Disrespectful for women

2. Does drugs

3. Uneducated

4. Disrespectful family members

5. No motivation/ambition

6. Lies

Dating Rules

Being back on the dating field and new to this mess.. I have found changes in myself.. good changes.. Dating is like a game in which if played well.. may lead to a relationship.. you have different kind of daters.. casual daters.. serious daters looking for relationships.. and people who i wouldn't even call daters more looking for casual sex.. So since I don't know much about dating I've decided I'd take a kick at listing my rules for dating!!

Jay Peas Rules For Dating 

Rule number 1 of dating!!

ABSOLUTELY NO LYING!! 

When you are dating someone, there is a possibility that it could lead into something more than just a casual date or two.. with that in mind.. you cannot lead yourself into a relationship with lies you have to live up to.. One!! you are single.. so if someone doesn't like you for being honest then they weren't the one for you.  Two!! when you go into a relationship with someone with lies already laid out for you it's hard for you to hold up to those lies.. point blank period.. you should always practice being an honest person when dating as well as when in a relationship.. 

Rule number 2

BE YOURSELF!!

My biggest problem I have with dating guys is the fact that many of them want to splurge on me to impress me.  One!! An loyal female with a good head on her head is not going to care how much you can spend on her because she will have her own money.  Guys always want to take me out to some fancy restaurant to impress me when all of that is not needed.  One thing about fancy restaurants is that it's like a trap.  One from a females perspective, if you order something too expensive then will the guy think that you're a gold digger??  Is this how this guy is ALL of the time?? Or is he just trying to "splurge" to impress you?? It's too many what ifs to live up to.. Also, in my eyes once I get comfortable being treated a certain way, I am going to EXPECT you to live up to that.. Maybe you took me to a fancy restaurant because you just got income tax or a bonus from work or even financial aid.. but because you took me to a few restaurants I'm going to always EXPECT that and if you can't live up to it then what does that say about the person you are?? So fellas.. just be yourself.. I'm okay with cheap dates.. we are all young and building out empires so I don't expect diamonds when you can only afford Cubic Zirconia either way if its from the heart I'll love it. 

Rule number 3

DONT INTRODUCE ME TO YOUR FAMILY UNLESS WE BOTH AGREE WE ARE READY TO MOVE TO THE NEXT STAGE

One time I dated a guy who introduced me to his family and friends after our second date.. I was upset for two reasons.. One, because he didn't give me warning that I was meeting his family and two because I wasn't ready to move to a more serious level with him and I felt like I was being put on the spot... I feel like meeting someone's family is a BIG step that should not happen if we are "just dating". Now when we are still dating and getting ready to move more toward a relationship, I'm fine with meeting your family if the meeting is a mutual (( we both agree we ready for all of that)) I just want to get to know you well enough before I have to get to know other people that are important to you. 

Rule 4

I WILL NOT GO ON A DATE YOU TO YOUR HOUSE

If we are dating.. then we need to go out on dates! I'm not expensive whatsoever so if you don't have that type of money to be spending or don't want to spend it there are two possible options... One, you don't need to be dating me.. or two, you should be creative.  We all use google and google has plenty of cheap date ideas.. We could go for a walk, feed the ducks, eat ice cream ((Mc Donald's cones are $1 if you can't afford that or don't want to spend that then you are irrelevant)), go to the park.. anything.. I'm pretty sure if you search cheap dates under __$ plenty of ideas will show.  Be creative.. but if I'm trying to get to know you I don't feel the need for our first date to be at your house or mine.. Nope.. Eventually we can get to that.. movie nights.. game nights.. whatever but a dude not willing to go out and just wants to hang at the house is a red flag to me. 

Rule 5

LETS HAVE FUN... WITHOUT THE SEX
When I begin dating someone, if the biggest topic out of their mouth is sex.. I'll pass.  Not that sex has to be completely excluded from dating.. I just feel that shouldn't be the only thing we do that is "fun"... It shouldn't be the only way that you want to get to know me.. You should want to know my mind and spirit before you want to know my body.

Well I hope you like my rules.. What are your rules.. Do you agree or disagree with mines.. Read.  Relate/Disagree.  Comment.  Thanks.